Ego was the driving force behind businesses in the last century. That is all changing as the culture of business changes. Success today comes from a more value based and socially conscious model, providing a good product or service to the benefit of customers and clients.
How Ego Is Created
From an intuitive perspective ego is formed when we create pictures or thoughts about ourselves based on what we think we should be, to keep up with others, to put on a good impression, etc. These pictures sit in our aura, the energy field around us. Others see these pictures intuitively and believe this is who we are. Suddenly it becomes important to sustain these pictures, this ego. We begin to act as if this who we really are. We act and react in response to this ego and these pictures. Think of ego, as is a false sense of self that reacts when we feel our self-image is threatened. When we live in our ego it affects our work, our personal life and our wellness. More importantly we loose our sense of self.
Effect of Ego
Our ability to do our work is affected by our ego as it clouds our awareness and creates uninformed automatic responses. We can each make a long list of successful business owners and professionals who lost all sense of themselves when they became their ego. They also lost their perspective resulting in poor choices and decisions that harmed them, their company and often their families. To get out of ego means to act and respond from our own clear and conscious understanding of who we are, what we value in relationship to the situation.
We all have an ego. The control this has over us varies from one to the other. The key is to become aware of when we are acting, reacting or making decisions from our ego and when we are operating from our authentic self.
Intuitive Exercise
Try this intuitive exercise when you feel that ego is behind your actions or reactions.
- Take a moment to pause.
- Be grounded.
- Find your center – the center of your head.
- Take a deep breath and release whatever you are holding, defending or protecting.
- Notice what is on your mind and your reactions.
- Imagine pulling your energy and your awareness out of the ego, the false pictures in your aura.
- Bring your attention and awareness even more to the center of your head.
- Be aware of yourself and how you are feeling.
- Breathe. Release.
- Find a neutral perspective.
- Now consciously change your energy and your space to fit who you are and what you value.
- When you feel your energy is reset then you are ready to re-engage the question or issue before you.
When we can get out of our ego then we can stay connected to our authentic self to create a successful business or career.
As business owners we work hard to create good impressions and cannot afford a bad one. We pay attention to our branding, our marketing materials, office space, physical appearance, cars and more. Image and impressions are everything!
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Yesterday I was mentoring the owner of an interior design firm. She was ready to take her business to the next level. Issues she wanted to address were the addition of new staff, new office space, implementing a new marketing plan, etc. I saw intuitively that she was smart, had clear goals and understood the importance of having a clear vision. I also saw that her business plan was ready to move forward.
I just have to tell you Susan’s story because it is so familiar and I see it so often. Susan is an amazingly capable professional working for a large national organization. In recent years she began to feel dissatisfied with her work not because there was anything wrong with it but more that she was ready for new challenges and to move closer to her next dream job.
One of the best times to use your intuition is when you cannot decide, the answers you are looking for are not obvious or your find yourself successfully defending both sides of your own argument! You have been thinking, discussing it with others and still you cannot tell the right way to go or which decision to make. This is the time to stop thinking! Sometimes logic cannot provide our answers either because we are not neutral to the issue, our own thoughts and emotions cloud our thinking. Sometimes we cannot decide because of the pressures from other people or competing interests.
Do you find your time taken with responding to one thing after another? Do you feel that stuff keeps happening to you and you wonder what is next? Who is creating all of this? Successful business owners and professionals know this well.

It may seem like a strange concept but trust me it works. Successful business owners have a balance between their body, mind and spirit. It works something like this. One aspect of a business owner is as a visionary with a creative idea and the undeniable urge to see this vision manifested. This brings out the the organizer side of the business owner. The organizer side takes this vision, adds color, texture, and has a passion to make it a reality. The organizer grounds our business in a physical reality. The organizer, or our analytical side, creates the structure for our vision. Finally, there is the do-er side of us. This is the side of the business owner that knows how to provide the product or service of our business.



As an intuitive, I am completely amazed by how many add their energy and agreement to something they absolutely DON’T want to happen!






