We all have it, that one belief we are stuck on and gets in the way of having all we desire. You know what I mean by that one thing that always comes up for you and distracts you from creating something.

We hold within us pictures, memories, beliefs, emotions, thoughts, and energy. Some support us in creating our goals, achieving our success, and others get in our way of the very things that we want. When we are tired of this old pattern of being, we can change it.

When I work with someone for a while, I come to know the one thing they are stuck on. During a session, it is the one belief they repeat and say as if it were true. They are looking at their lives through that one unproductive belief, so they create their reality this way.

As an intuitive, I know we have to get out of these unproductive pictures, beliefs, thoughts, and emotions to create some aspect of our life that we feel we cannot have. There are no coincidences. Our life is a reflection of us, what we think, what we believe, and how we view things. We create a way of thinking that supports all of this, yet none of this is true. It is merely our experience recalled or a belief we hold. To have more of what we desire, we have to change something in us.

Logic will not create this change. Discipline will not change it. The unproductive concept is there because it makes us uncomfortable. That is not logical, but it is very intuitive. We hold onto pictures, ideas, and thoughts from experiences or others. It would be wonderful to let go of beliefs just as easily as we take them into us. These unproductive ideas stay with us because they are attached to an uncomfortable emotion, and energy builds on them over time, making them more entrenched. Every time we repeat a belief, the energy builds on it, making it more real.

When we focus on something we cannot have, i.e., a loving relationship, financial security, the idea of it stimulates an unproductive belief, energy, and an emotion that goes with it. This makes us go unconscious (space out, leave the body), and any focus on the goal is gone. It’s not that we cannot create a loving relationship or financial security. We are stuck on an unproductive belief that grabs our attention and begins the series of reactions that tell us all the reasons we cannot have it. It makes us feel incapable of changing this circumstance. It becomes a pattern that persists in our life.

So how do we change this? Change comes from within. It starts with realizing there is no logical solution, or you would have solved this by now. Begin by focusing on yourself to become aware of the patterns in your thinking. Recognize when you have the same feeling and reaction every time you are in a particular situation. You want to notice that familiar feeling and become curious. Rather than going into the unproductive way of being, step back, pull your energy and attention out of it, and wonder why you always feel this way. Be curious and have enthusiasm for finding out something about how you are being.

I hear from my clients something like, “Every time I ………” or “No matter what I try, it always……..” These are red flags that show that we are stuck in an unproductive belief. The goal is to recognize when we are doing this. To stop, step back, and ask, “Why do I think this way?” “Why do I believe this to be true?” Nothing that we think is true. It is just what we think and believe. We can change our perspective, which results in a change in our lives.

Most often, asking yourself these questions does not provide clarity because we look for a logical answer and do not dig deep enough to find the answer. Try meditation. In meditation, you quiet the body, clear your thinking, and go within to your core to ask the same question, “Why do I believe this to be true?” then quietly listen for the answer in you. This answer will be your truth. You will never find the truth in your mind, so come out of your mind, go within. When we become aware of how we are being, we can come out of the belief we are stuck on, create a new picture of what we truly want, and that changes our reality. That is not logical, but it is very intuitive.