Self-image is a term loaded with expectations, judgment, disappointment, effort and uncertainty. I could go on listing the experiences my clients shared over the years. Most describe their self-image as what they believe other people see. From an intuitive perspective, none of this is true.

True self-image is simply the refection of who you are at your core. Core means heart. What if we stop thinking about self-image and learn who we are at our core and express that.

Self-Image or self-expression comes from within. The first step is see and know who we are at our core. Meditation is a way to quiet the body, clear our thinking, and go within. To go within means to place your attention on your core (heart). As we grow in our understanding of our core, our life becomes a reflection – our self-image.

Giving thanks for what we have validates all that we have.  

Try taking it a step further, be intuitive, give thanks, and have gratitude for what you have not yet received.  This may not be logical, but it is very intuitive.

Having gratitude for what you have not yet received declares that it is already manifesting in your life and will soon be complete.   This creates abundance.

See your goals and the life you desire manifesting around you, making space and setting the energy for those creations.  Be grateful now for what is being created.

Warm regards and Happy Thanksgiving.

What if I said, “Don’t start your day.” Most of us have our day already in our minds before it even starts. As a result, we are ahead of ourselves, falling into our thoughts, the beliefs we hold, and taking things as they come. Most of this is done unconsciously. One client described it as feeling she is on the back end of everything.

Try a different approach. What if you started with yourself? Before you start your day, place your attention on yourself. Notice how you are doing. Notice your frame of mind and more. Now take a deep breath, relax, and let go of all of that.

Before you start your day:

1. Take the time to focus on yourself.
2. Relax, release, and breathe.
3. Be present. In the moment.
4. Clear your thinking.
5. Know how you want to be today. 
6. Imagine how you want to experience yourself. 

Be mindful, thoughtful, and intentional.

Once you have imagined how you want to experience yourself, now you are ready to change how you will approach and experience your day.

There are no coincidences, and we should not be surprised about how others respond to us. They are simply giving us what we expect. Do not think of this logically. Let’s be intuitive about this.

We are always holding a picture or energy in our space based on our thinking.
People are intuitive whether they realize it or not. They see the picture or the energy in our space and give us that. For example, if you are afraid that people will ignore you in an important meeting. Your energy is set in resistance or acceptance of this happening. Holding a picture of being ignored tells people to ignore you.

On the other, you may decide to reconcile with old friends and create a new positive relationship. You hold this positive reconciliation picture and energy in your space. When they see you, if inclined, they will match your positive energy and picture to reconcile

There are other considerations. We all have free will. In the first example, someone in the meeting may have a different and stronger picture. Their picture may be to meet you and find out more. Now it is up to you to be open to that possibility.

In the second example, it is also possible that someone holds a different picture. They are not interested in a positive relationship. That is ok because that person does not match your picture and a new relationship is not possible. Someone else who is attracted to your vision and energy will show up.

My final example is a common one. You want to have more money than you need. More for what you want. The stronger picture in your space and the energy you hold is that you cannot have the money you need or want. The universe is always giving us what we declare. In this case, the universe will let you want money but not have it.

So the message here is, be careful what you hold in your space. The experiences you have are a reflection of the pictures and the energy you hold in your space. Change your pictures and energy to change your reality. Start today. Decide how to think and feel about something you do want.

There are no coincidences. We are constantly getting what we believe. None of this is logical. It is intuitive.

What if I suggested that you stop trying to solve problems? You would think I was absurd. What if I mean to stop solving problems? 

From an intuitive perspective, we create experiences through our thoughts, beliefs, and memories. Our lives reflect everything that is in us. In my work with business owners, professionals, and individuals, I note differences in how everyone views their circumstances. Some always seem to have problems to solve while others do not. Some spend their time and energy trying to solve problems while others spend their time and energy creating what they want in life. Their perspective creates everything they experience. 

 The way we focus our attention and energy creates how we see the world. A problem in our lives simply reflects something within us, our energy, or a belief.

In sessions with clients, I hear myself asking them, “Why do you believe that is true?” They insist that it is true as if it was true for everyone. When I say that it is not true for me, that is just what they believe to be true. They are stunned. The goal is to become aware that our life is a reflection of us. We each have a different point of view, and we can change it to have more of the life we want. 

When we experience a problem that we cannot seem to solve, we become analytical, create thoughts, and add energy to the problem. An old saying comes to mind, “Making a mountain out of a molehill.”  That is not meant to minimize more serious problems, but you get the idea.

Problems are a reflection of something in us. Rather than analyze the problem, stop thinking about it for a moment, take your attention off the problem and focus on yourself. 

Problems are not a coincidence. They are opportunities to reveal something. What if we took a different point of view? What if this problem is showing us something about ourselves? What if the problem is showing us what we need to change or stop doing to achieve a goal? That may not be logical, but it is very intuitive.

Rather than solving a problem, try another approach. Quiet your mind, go within, and ask yourself at your core (heart), “What is this problem showing me?  Is there something I need to change?”  Then listen. Don’t think.  This is an intuitive exercise of listening to ourselves and finding our answers within. 

Focusing on solving a problem puts our attention outside ourselves. That problem will reappear until we change something in us. When we focus on ourselves, we can create a change that gives us more of what we are looking for. Ask yourself, “What goal am I trying to achieve?” Listen to your heart and experience your ability to create the life you desire.

COVID has taught us many things about ourselves and our lives, what is important to us and what is not. 

During the past year, we were asked to shelter in place, stay at home, restrict our movement, wear masks, and social distance. Many things we used to do were closed.

COVID also brought us opportunities. Your perspective may be different, and that is the idea. How we thinkabout our lives is how our life manifests. From an intuitive perspective, I saw shelter in place as a clear message for us to stop and take care of ourselves. This was an urgent message to the entire world. We cannot ignore dramatic messages. Clearly, taking care of our wellness in body, mind, and spirit is important to have the life we desire.

Take Care

We stopped. We separated from our routine and focused on taking care of ourselves, our well-being, and staying safe. It was a message that told us to come back to and heal ourselves.

When we are busy, we are not conscious of what is happening to us and our lives. COVID made us stop. We became more aware and began to wonder why we were doing one thing or another. We started to consider new choices “when things go back to normal.” Of course, things cannot go back.

Changing Our Relationships

We were asked to stay at home. This helped us realize who and what we value. It also revealed relationships and activities that did not support us. We will not go back to those places or those relationships.

We were told to wear masks and social distance. From an intuitive perspective, the message is clear. Protect our space, become aware of who and what impacts our personal space in positive and not so positive ways. At some point, we will no longer be asked to wear masks and social distancing. We hope tohave gained a greater awareness of our personal space. That awareness will help us make choices that protect and support us and others.

Make New Choices

A lot has been closed to us, or access limited. We began to realize things we did out of habit or routine versus what we want in our lives. This is a great time to meditate or reflect on what is important and what we value. We do not want to go back to the way things were because, in hindsight, we did not want it all. We were stuck in routines and habits without realizing whether it served our life.

If we take the time to decide what we want, then we can begin to imagine a future aligned with the life we desire. Everything is possible. If you can imagine it, it is manifesting. Imagine the life you want as we emerge from a loud and clear message to change. What choices will we make that better align with who we are at our core? This is an opportunity not to go back to the way things used to be. We have free will and the opportunity to make new choices.

An article about how some business owners changed after they contracted COVID. Read more.

These are trying times. We are sheltered in place as the coronavirus makes its presence known worldwide. Our economy is in crisis. These are trying times.

How we react or respond makes this the opportunity of a lifetime. I do not believe in coincidences, so there is something in this situation that gives each of us an answer to our most burning question.

A lot of us have been at home for the past two weeks. Being at home will continue, and more of you may join us. How we deal with this depends on our point of view. One of my teachers would advise to “enjoy not enjoying.” He meant that if you have to do something, you might just as well enjoy doing it. I have used and taught this mantra to gain perspective and enjoy more.

How are you viewing this time out of your routine?  I spend a lot of my time telling people who want to achieve something more, to get out of their routine. Shelter in place is the gift of getting out of your routine. Why does this matter? When we are in a routine, we become unconscious. Our routine becomes a habit that is hard to break. If our habit is hard to break, then there is no space for something new, even something you desperately want.

So does that mean we now have the opportunity to have something we desperately want? Perhaps. You are out of your routine. You choose how to use your time, focus your attention, and imagine your life. Hopefully, you are not creating new mind-numbing routines.

Are you at home waiting to go back to your routine, for things to go back to normal – as they were? Is that really what you want?

Take this time away from your routine. Rather than fill your mind. Empty your thinking, so there is space for a new perspective. Rather than stay busy, allow quiet, and heal yourself. Do things that support you and your wellness. Exercise. Eat better. Get more rest. Drink more water. Have fun. Meditate. Reflect. Express yourself – let who you are at your core be expressed in some way – singing, writing, playing music, through art, gardening, and any other form of self-expression. All of these steps bring you back to yourself and what is important to you.

We are not merely waiting to back to our routine because things will not be the same. Take this time to reconnect to yourself and what you desire in your life. Even if you go back to your job and friends, do you want to go back with the same habits, perspective, and routine?

What is your most pressing question? What have you been hoping and praying for? What do you truly want? Imagine yourself having it. We can unconsciously go through our days, or we can see and create each day to experience more of who we are at our core. Now is the time and the opportunity.

What does all of this have to do with fate and destiny?  Fate – you just go along.  Destiny – you decide where and how you are going.

 

Too often we get up and go about our routine without a second thought. One day leads to another that is the same. We wonder about success and being happy as something that will happen in the future. This way of seeing success and happiness in the future keeps then from manifesting until we decide to have it now.

How we create this day – today – creates tomorrow and so on. With that notion in mind, what do you want tomorrow to be like for you? Now decide how you want to be today so that you experience that tomorrow.

If you are a procrastinator, tomorrow will be the same and so on.

If you do not understand or know your power to create, then you are likely to stay in a routine and wait for the future as if it is beyond your control.

If it is easier for you to go through your routine, then nothing changes, and your routine continues.

If, however, you are inclined to take ownership of the life you are living then it starts today.

First, you see in your mind’s eye the significant aspects of the life you desire. That can include how you want to feel in your life, the kinds of relationships you want to engage, how you want to experience yourself in your work or creative endeavors, your vision of abundance and health. The list can go on.

Once we know, see in our mind’s eye and feel it in our body the life we desire then we can begin creating it today. What energy level do you want in your life? Start your day at that energy level. What attitude do you want to have? See your day through that lens. What actions can you take that align with your vision for health, abundance, relationships, success, etc.? Every step you make today can lead you to that end.

Consider that each day builds a better tomorrow moving closer to the life you desire.

Your day may also include deciding things you need to stop doing or start doing. It can mean staying away from people and things that bring you down and spending more time with positive people and inspiring experiences.

We create our future, and it begins today, improves tomorrow and each day that follows. Start now. Decide and write down the life you desire. Read it each day then start your day with all the ways you can align to that vision. Observe and experience the life you desire manifesting in each day. Be conscious as you go through your day. Be intentional.

The theme for the annual retreat was The Story for the Next Cycle of your life.

In my work with business owners and professionals, my focus is on raising awareness that we create our reality.  The concept of stories is a good analogy.  We are always living a story we created.  Sometimes it is a story of what we have already experienced.   This story tells us where we have been but does not need to be carried into our current or future story.  We create our stories, and they manifest in our world.  Is this hard to hear?  Imagine that what you believe, the story you tell about your life and that you are living that story.

When we change our thinking (story), we change our reality.  Most often we just go from day to day, living the life and the story we hold in our mind and our mind’s eye.  We are unconscious to most of it.  We take things as they are.  It does not need to be that way.

In this year’s retreat, the attendees spent time coming out of the current story of their life.  They took their energy out of what is.  From here they began to imagine and write the story of the life they desired.  There were parts of their life they have now they enjoy and want to continue to have, be or do.  Then there are the parts of their life (story) they want to change, i.e., something they want to stop doing, someone no longer wanted in their story, something to add, or someone to bring in.  At first, it seemed fictional.    I had to remind them to imagine it all happening now and write it that way.  In a few days the more they wrote and talked about the story for the next cycle of their life, the more real it felt and the more possible it seemed.

We have a story now.  It is creating some of what we want and some of what we do not want.  We can change our story and experience changes in our reality.  Writing our story is not enough.  We must take new actions that support the next chapter in our life story and stop doing whatever is in the way.

If you are ready to change your life in some way, sit down and write the next chapter of your life as you want it.  Do not get lost in deciding if or how to accomplish it.  Just write it first.  Imagine it happening now. Meditate on it regularly even daily until you feel yourself bringing it into your reality.

We are always creating a story in our mind about our lives. Some of the stories validate what we love about our lives. Some of our stories describe what we are not enjoying in our life. Regardless, both sides of our story are manifesting. Thoughts are creative. We create our thoughts. Our thoughts declare how our reality manifests.

With this awareness, it is worth our time to stop and reflect on the story we are telling ourselves. This story is only true because we say it is and live our life fulfilling it. If we change our story, we change our reality.

We tell ourselves a story that creates wonderful aspects of our life. We could do more of this if we chose. Often we get stuck in negative thinking and create stories that do not support what we desire. When we fear something, we tell ourselves a story that manifests that fear or that keeps us from building something that we want.

I could go on and on, but you get the idea. Thoughts are creative. When we are not paying attention, we may be telling ourselves stories that create things that we do not want in our lives. Awareness is essential. Notice the stories you are telling yourself. Are your stories creating what you do want or what you do not want?

Spend time writing the story of the life you desire. Change the narrative so that you are describing what you do want and not want you do not want.

Meditate to clear your thinking. Meditate to come out of stories that do not support who you are. Set your space and tell yourself the story that makes you feel aligned with the life you desire.