Are you busy doing or being?

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What we do matters little compared to who we are. Our culture is built the other way around. The focus is on what we do. In this way, we lose awareness of ourselves as we too focus on what we are doing or what we will do next.

How would the world and we be different if before we decided what to do in our life or even today, that we decided how we wanted to be? Would our choices, perspective and decisions be different or would we simply experience ourselves in a new way as we went about doing?

Because our world is upside down, we know a lot about what we do or judge ourselves about what we are not doing. The focus on doing is relentless. The more we focus this way, the more we lose ourselves, get off our path, find ourselves disappointed in one aspect of our lives or another or experience dis-ease. All this because doing comes before being.  And awareness of how we are being may never come to mind.

How might things be different if we took the time to stop doing, to stop thinking and took our attention off everything and everyone? We would be left with the mystery of ourselves. Quietly bringing our attention onto ourselves may be a new experience but one worth having.

It begins with placing our attention on ourselves to see how we are doing. We might notice how we feel, what‘s on our mind, what’s in our space and how our body is doing. Noticing how we are doing is a great first step, but it is not yet about how you are being.

Notice if you can stop doing long enough to find yourself. Often we are so lost in doing that we cannot stop. The idea of getting quiet is beyond our comprehension. Trying to get quiet feels harder than doing. It may take some self-discipline to stop doing and be with yourself.

If you were able to stop, get quiet and notice how you are doing, that is a great first step but there is more. Stay quiet with yourself and notice how you are being. Noticing how you are being is a quieter, deeper level of awareness. It is knowing who you are at your core and how you are experiencing yourself in the world. It is not esoteric. It is real.

The more often we stop and decide how to be, the more our lives and what we do in the world comes into alignment with who we are. Decisions can be made from that perspective. Actions come from how you want to be in the world.

Coming from the perspective of how you are being may mean changing what you do in a big or little ways, or it may simply mean deciding how you want to be as you live the life you have already created.

Give it a try. Start each day deciding how you want to be before you decide what you will do.  Notice what changes.   We may find that we move away from things that do not serve us and into new ways of experiencing ourselves.  Enjoy.



Energy In Your Space Is Real

dreamstime_man-meditating_5645730During each day, we pick up energy from people, places and things. If we hold these energies in our space, it becomes part of us, influencing and controlling our space. We act and react differently as a result. Knowing that energy is real and that we can manage energy is an important step in self-awareness, wellness and success. Meditation is a way to manage energy.

Energy That Is Not Ours  

It does not matter if the energy we picked up is energy from something we enjoyed or something we resisted. Other’s energy in our space alters us. If it was a positive energy at first, over time the energy level drops and it becomes just another energy in our space. We can feel stressed, resistance, anger or effort. We begin to feel and act differently because we are managing energy that is not ours. This is overwhelming. Sarah told me she comes home from work and sits in front of the television for hours until she feels better. In this instance, Sarah, did not clear the energy of her day. The energy is still in her space, just not vibrating at a high pitch anymore and she has accepted it. I taught Sarah how to spend a few minutes in meditation to clear the energy of her day with a better result.

The first step in energy management is to clear our space each day. Others deal with energy in their space in different ways. Some self-medicate to numb themselves from the energy in their space. Some explode or rage to force the energy out of their space. Others do intense physical workouts or get lost in something to distract them. There are many more ways to hide from the discomfort of others energy in our space. Meditation is a better way.

Energy Depleted
Likewise, we leave our energy outside ourselves, at our work, in a conversation, a place we went and the list is endless. If we continue to leave our energy places, we become depleted, feel burned out and are resentful. When our energy is not high enough, we cannot create and our creations begin to dissolve. Our wellness is affected. Sarah learned that she gives her energy away, has a difficult time letting go of experiences and feels exhausted most of the time. In our session, I taught Sarah the second step in energy management, to gather up her energy from her day. Gathering up your energy is not logical, but it is very intuitive.

Energy Is Real

The first step is to know that energy is real even if we are not conscious of it in this way. Meditation is important as a way to manage energy.  Create a time to stop each day for energy management, to clear our space of any energy we picked up and to collect up our energy that we may have left somewhere or with someone. Whatever comes to mind during meditation shows you where your energy is or what energy is in your space. Energy is real. Energy management is only one but an important aspect of meditation.

Make time each day to get quiet, focus on yourself, release and let go of whatever is in your space or on your mind. You can feel it, hear it and know it. Then imagine calling your attention and energy back from whatever is on your mind or is distracting you. Continue until you feel like you and are fully focused on yourself in present time.

Best wishes on your success, Kay


Does the energy level of the body keep you from success?

      When your vision begins to manifest do you unconsciously stop it or miss the opportunity? This week I was reminded how easy it is to forget that we are creating our reality when our body reacts to these changes.  Perhaps this story will help us all become more aware, intuitive and recognize there are no coincidences.


Kathy has a successful accounting firm.  Her business has sustained on referrals for years.  Recently she decided that she wanted to grow her business 50%.  As we developed a strategy for that to happen Kathy realized she would need to change her client demographics.  Once her business plan was completed I guided her through a meditation to visualize this growth and change in her company.  This plan would change everything.  She envisioned a big step for herself, her staff and her success.

Within the week she received several unexpected inquiries that would give her access to her new client demographics of high net worth individuals.

  • One of her staff brought in couple from his church to interview the firm.
  • An investment banker asked her to attend an invitation only luncheon for his clients.
  • An estate attorney asked to meet to discuss her ability to serve his clients.
  • And a business organization in LA asked her to partner with them for large local event.

Kathy was thrilled and inspired by this sudden onslaught of possibilities that seem to manifest right from her new business plan and vision.   Indeed they did.   She had a busy week before her.

Yesterday, during our coaching session, Kathy said she was worried and wanted to quit.   I have heard and seen this countless times before so I laughed and asked her if success was scaring her.  I saw intuitively that her physical body was reacting to the energy change she just made in her company.  This is not logical but it is very intuitive.   We create as body, mind and spirit.   When all three parts are in sync we are happy with our success.  Kathy decided to increase her business 50%, updated her business plan (mind) and meditated to create a vision (spirit) of this new level of success and to see clearly how things would be different, i.e. new client base.

In the body, mind and spirit triad, the mind can come up with ideas and thoughts with little effort.   We can take the time to visualize which is the spirit part of us.  The body on the other hand hates change, easily goes into fear and is always seeking comfort so when we visualize something new, a big step up and the change it requires, our body reacts.  Sometimes it screams NO!

Kathy created a vision that she was excited to create.  Her creative energy level was high.   This change in her energy level created a reaction in her body, which was at a lower vibration.  Anywhere the energy was low or slow in her body suddenly felt uncomfortable, in pain and  she wanted to quit.  This was quite simply her body reacting to the energy of change.

This is the time that many people back off their success and not takes steps to raise the energy level of the body to be high enough to allow success. We can decide to succeed or sit down so that the body is comfortable.  So many people let their body’s limitation stop them, direct their decisions, etc. when all they need to do is help raise the energy level of the body high enough to match the vision she has created.  In this way we are in sync (body, mind and spirit).

In my practice I suggest the basics to keep the energy level of the body high enough to allow you to create inspired success.

  • Get the right amount of sleep and exercise.  Both are a must.
  • Eat high value foods.  Your nutrition can raise or lower the vibration of your body so chose foods of high value.
  • Breath deeply and more often.   Breathe deeper.
  • Drink lots of water as this keeps energy moving in the body.
  • And finally have fun!  This raises the energy level of the body.

Next time you take a big step or even think about taking a big step notice how your body reacts.  Consciously take steps to raise the energy level of the body so that you can have inspired success.

Best wishes on your success,


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