Which do you choose, routine or life?

No one wants their life to be nothing more than a routine. Many do just that, going day to day with no plan or a vague plan to live the life they desire. Without a plan, things may be ok, but something is missing. In a routine life, we take each day as it comes, reacting to what is presented to us. We find our lives busy with one thing or another. Where is the joy?

It does not need to be this way. Routines become unconscious. We become unconscious and lose touch with ourselves and the vision of the life we desire. What was the life you desired? Do you remember?

We can decide when it is time to get out of our routine, to reconnect with ourselves and remember or reimagine the life we want. It is never too soon or too late. The challenge is that it is often easier to continue as we are than to change.

Change can begin quietly in meditation. It does not need to be hard nor dramatic, but it can be if you see it that way. Change can also happen as a natural transition from where you are to the life you desire. This change begins in meditation, a quiet place of seeing clearly.

To get where we truly want to be, go within, quiet the body, clear your thinking and say hello to who you are at your core. Meditation is a way to connect with ourselves and begin to imagine the life we desire, seeing it clearly in our mind’s eye, feeling it in the body and changing our thinking.

Meditating each day strengths our vision, helps the body get out of routines, and clears our thinking so that the life we desire begins to manifest right now and continues to manifest more clearly each day.

In this process, we may experience a sense of grief or loss. We get through that by finding ourselves. It can be this sense of grief or loss that keeps us unconsciously in our routine. If we do not feel it, that does not mean it is not there.

As your certainty grows, you can begin to write a plan to live your life more intentionally and move toward the life you desire. This is a necessary step to bring your vision into your world so that it moves from a dream to your reality. Write down steps you can take though change may happen more quickly than you planned. Enjoy!

Stay in our routine, day to day, or create the life we desire starting now. We have free will.

A Bumpy Way to Success

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We are always getting our goals. This I know.  Some goals simply manifest. Other goals manifest through a rough and tumble change of circumstances. Both are ways to achieve our goals, and both are of our doing. If you have gone through a rough time and experienced loss, you probably think that I am wrong. Why would you create such chaos?

I agree that you did not create the chaos, but that disruption may be the only way for a goal that you set for yourself to manifest. Let me explain how the universe works and many of you already know this, but may have forgotten.

Whatever we imagine is being created the moment we imagine it. Sometimes, we imagine what we want, and so our universe begins to change to manifest that vision. Other times, we dwell on what we do not want, and so the universe manifests that. The warning here is to be careful what you imagine or dwell on.

It is natural to dwell on what is not working, but that is a dangerous place to focus our attention. When you find this happening, changing your attention to what you do want, produces better results in your life.  Focus on what you do want and not give a moments attention to what you do not want in your life.

When some aspect of our life is being destroyed, that can be the result of focusing on what we do not want OR focusing on what we do want. The former is obvious but how does focusing on what we do want, create so much disruption?

My question would be, is it creating what you don’t want? Or is it creating the change needed so that you can create what you do want? Change is uncomfortable. That does not mean it is a bad change. In fact, if you step back from the discomfort, you will most likely see the change forced on you, actually made space for you to create something new, something better.

Meditating or imaging the life we desire is essential to creating that life. If we do not know what we want or don’t want, then we are like a willow in the wind, being swayed one way or another by external forces. On the other hand, seeing clearly in our mind’s eye the life we desire, is the way that life is created intentionally.

Once we imagine our life, our universe begins to change from where we are to where we want to be. This is not logical, but it is very intuitive. Change begins and if we are proactive, then change flows, making decisions that lead the change.

When we are stuck in some way, resistant to change or afraid of change it is more difficult for the universe to manifest the vision of the life we desire. We are fighting change. As I mentioned at the beginning, we are always getting our goals, so something dramatic or less graceful needs to happen to get us unstuck. This is when we lose a job we have wanted out of but were afraid to change, a relationship ends that does not support us, etc.

When these changes “happen to us,” we can step back and see that it was a change that needed to happen. A change that we resisted. Because we resisted making the change on our own, it will be especially uncomfortable. This is a good time to meditate or reflect on the life we desire and reconnect with what we want for ourselves. By taking the time, to be clear we can begin to take charge of where we go from here.

Having a vision is essential but, of itself, does not create the life we desire. We must focus and take specific actions to bring that vision into our reality. Discomfort is a normal reaction to change. Resisting change intensifies this discomfort, and we are unable to move forward. Accept being uncomfortable and moving forward in a focused and determined way, moves us out of the pain and closer to the life we desire.

Remember, we are always achieving our goals, gracefully or in uncomfortable ways. We have free will. We can choose. We are always creating our reality. Hold your head high and focus on the life you desire. It is within reach.

What Seems Impossible?​

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What seems impossible to us, may not necessarily be true.   Something that seems impossible may feel that way simply because to achieve it, makes us uncomfortable.  Moving out of our comfort zone may be the real issue we are dealing with, not the desire itself.

Our feeling that something is impossible is often a deeply ingrained belief that we created and reinforced over time making it difficult to think another way.  What if what you thought was impossible is not true?  What if you made that up at some point and stuck with it?

We can change our thinking about things even though it may not be easy.  To begin, decide that everything you believe is not true.  That everything you believe is just a thought you created.  That is, in fact, what happened.

To create something that we believe to be impossible requires our willingness to change. Are you ready to allow change and to change your thinking? Whatever you are experiencing in your world is there because you believed it.  Anything you desire that is not in your world is because you believe it is impossible. Energy builds around our thoughts and beliefs, creating layer after layer of energy reinforcing that idea.

I see this every day working with people who firmly believe that something is impossible and I see that it is not.  I experience this for myself when I worry about something that others do not. We can reflect for each other the limits that we hold. I listen to what someone says and wonder, am I seeing a limit they have created or are they showing me a limit that I have?  Usually, it is both ways.  On our own, we just sit in our thoughts, believing our own stuff!

Take a moment and image coming out of the thoughts and concepts you created about what is possible in your world.  When I say, “Nothing is impossible” what do you see, think, or feel?

Make a list of everything you believe is impossible.  Make a long list and get these thoughts out of you.

As you make this list, notice if you put energy into these beliefs, reinforce them in your mind or are beginning to separate from them.  Don’t dwell on any one idea, just make a list. Are you in the place that everything feels impossible or are you feeling as though you can change some of the ideas on this list?  Can you bring your energy out of each thought as you write it?  Begin to change your view to see things as possible.

Review your list.  Some of what you wrote, does not matter to you.  Other things that you listed, you wish you could have, be or do.  Those are the desires that matter.  Find someone to listen to you as your read your list.  Tell them you want to change your thinking about each item, that you want to see them as possible.  Your partner does not have to do anything, just listen.  As you do this, you will begin to change your perspective.  Do this often until you create enough space to take actions to allow the impossible to manifest.  Change your thinking and change what is possible.

 

What do you dwell on? That’s what you are creating. Yikes!

dv1990098We spend our time dwelling on the energy in our space, the thoughts in our head, problems, people and more. How might things be different if we directed our attention? How might things be different if we consciously decided what to dwell on? What would happen if we did not dwell on energies in our space but on the life we are creating?

First, it would be hard to do because no one taught us that we could choose. No one taught us that we pick up other’s energy and thoughts all day long into our space. And indeed, no one taught us that we could and should remove energy that is not ours from our space every day. No one taught us to clear our thinking.

So now as adults we live in a reality where we keep others energy and thoughts in our space and think it is ours. The owner of a very successful company described an experience in which she could not get a client off her mind. Sara was dwelling on him regularly and could feel him in her space. She tried everything she could think of the get free of him finally she danced. She danced for hours, enjoying every minute of it, bringing her energy back into her space and releasing the energy and thoughts of her client. This worked for her.

Charles found himself dwelling on his staff; felt that he could not get free of them, their expectations and his thoughts about it. Then it occurred to Charles that perhaps he could decide what to focus on and what to think. Charles knew he had to get his space back from everyone, so he got into his car, put the top down and headed for the coast. The coast had always been a place of personal sanctuary for Charles, and it reminded him of times when he was clear and enjoyed dwelling on the life he desired.

Both of these examples are great stories of someone recognizing they wanted their space back so that they could focus their thoughts intentionally. Their solutions worked but are not practical for each moment of our day.

The goal would be to focus our thinking and our energy, as we desire throughout our day. Doing this would change our lives in positive ways. Rather than dwelling on problems, we would focus on how we want our lives to be personally and professionally. Focusing on what we do want changes everything.

Because this would be a significant change, we have to start small. First, begin to notice what you dwell on. Becoming aware of our thoughts is essential to create change. Next, imagine releasing or coming out of those thoughts. It may mean letting go of thoughts others have placed in your space as well as thoughts you added to that conversation. Stop the conversation. Finally, redirect your attention. Begin to focus on and think about how you do want in this moment, today , this week, etc. in the context of the life you desire.

It helps to write down what you are creating in your life, to help you direct not only your thinking but also your actions. Thoughts are creative so create your thoughts. Create thoughts that support the life you desire.  Do not dwell, even for a second, on what you do not want.

Best wishes for success, Kay

 

Create From Within

dreamstime_xs_12419700For the past twenty plus years, I have been working with business owners and professionals to achieve their vision of success and learned a great deal in the process.

When I began I had everyone focus on achieving his or her goals. I have a unique ability to guide people in achieving something, so most achieved their goals and more quickly than they expected. Something else happened.

These same people then complained that though they achieved their goals, they were not happy. From this came a new focus. The answer does not come from achieving goals. I needed to show people to look at the bigger picture. What is their vision for the life they desire? All of it. Personally and professionally. Goals needed to support their vision.

This change made an enormous difference. I found everyone began to feel inspired by creating a grander vision for himself or herself. Gradually I watched people creating greater and grander things then feeling a bit lost.

In meditation, I saw that everyone was busy creating things to have, be and do. All their attention was outside of themselves. They were getting addicted to creating one thing after another and began losing awareness of themselves. I knew they were heading in the wrong direction. I  saw they needed to go within and reconnect with who they are.

From this awareness, I created From Within, a program designed to guide you to connect with who you are at your core. To go within. When you connect with who you are at your core, you grow in your awareness of yourself, find your essence and everything changes.

When you connect to who we are at our core then you create from within and that manifests in your world. This may not be logical. It is more accurate to say it is something you have to experience.

We have so much of our attention and awareness outside ourselves that we lose ourselves. We are busy manifesting rather than experiencing who we are at our core in the world.

When we create from within, we can experience who we are in the world. That does not mean that we have to change what we do or have. It means we bring who we are at our core, our essence, into what we do and create from there.

Take the time to meditate. Go within. Go to your core (cor=heart). Find yourself. Find your essence. Create from within.

Best wishes, Kay

From Within

How we are being, determines our success.

Cloud SmileysSuccess depends on us. Not so much what we do but how we are being. If you want to know how things will turn out today, tomorrow or next year, stop and notice how you are being. Notice how you are feeling about it. Notice what you think, fear or believe. Seeing yourself, you are watching how you create or don’t create. We can change how we are being and thus change the result.

Notice how things are different when we are acting in ways that are successful. When we are being successful, we can be guaranteed a better outcome.

The energy of creating is not a complicated concept though it may not be logical. When we are excited by the possibilities, see our vision, are running our creative energy, we are creating success. The creative energy of the planet manifests around what we imagine and gives it form.

On the other hand, when we are down for some reason, our creative energy drops and, as a result, everything seems to stop or fade away. That is what happens exactly. The image we had of our success is no longer energized by us and so it, in fact, disappears.

Our thinking can get in the way as well. Say you know the success that you want. You begin to imagine your idea of being successful then you start to have doubts. Your thoughts jump to the forefront, saying you will not be successful for one reason or another. Your attention moves from your vision of success to a fear of failure. Once again the creative energy drops, the mental image picture of success starts to fade.

There are many examples of how our creative energy can lower. It happens all the time. The measure of success is how we react to these situations. Do we stay at the lower vibration and maybe go even lower, allowing our vision to fade completely? Yikes!

Some recognize the thoughts, energy or experiences that just brought them down and they turn it around. With great determination, they take their attention off the negative thoughts or energy and refocus on their vision of success. It is an exercise in self-discipline, disciplining our energy, directing it in ways that support our success.

We have control of our creative energy even what something impacts our energy in the moment. Being self-aware allows us to notice these energy changes and adjust rather than dwell in the lower energy levels.

How do you change your energy when it drops? One business owner gets in his car and goes for a drive; another spends time in meditation reconnecting to his enthusiasm for his vision, and yet another goes to the beach, to find himself. All three of these people know that solving the problem is not the answer. They know the answer is in finding themselves, their passion and enthusiasm for what they are creating. They move to get their energy back to creating and reconnect with themselves, knowing that anything is possible.

The answer lies in noticing how we are being in the moment. To create, we have to be at a creative vibration. To stop creating, simply drop your energy. We have free will. We can choose.

When We Hate Change

200469160-001Two of my clients are going through difficult life changing events that bring me to understand more deeply the nature of change. Both are experiencing changes they have wanted for a long time but changes they could not make. We are always getting what we want. Sometimes we are proactive and create the changes we desire. When we are stuck in a routine, a way of being and resisting change, our desire for change still manifests though in a forceful way.

Everyone I work with can identify that their current crisis stems from a desire for change. Sometimes change needs to disrupt old routines, energy patterns and ways of being that no longer serve us and stand in the way of achieving our vision.

When circumstances force us to make a change, we have wanted but could not make then we know that we are the cause of the disruption. Some changes are made easily. Other changes need an explosion to be accomplished. These are often miserable, heart-wrenching experiences of change.

That does not mean that it has to be this way. When there is a change we desire but find it difficult or impossible to accomplish, we tend to find a way to continue as we are without making the change voluntarily. This approach almost guarantees an upheaval as necessary to give us the change we know we want.

There is another way to effect a change we resist making. From an intuitive perspective, it begins with using abilities we already have within us.

  • Go to your core (cor is Latin for the heart). Go to who you are at your core – go within to your heart chakra. Connect with who you are. From your core, you find courage, which means to stand by your core. When we connect to our core and create from there, we experience our courage to create change.
  • Be grounded. When we resist making a change, the energy center at the base of our spine (the first chakra – survival chakra) may open too much making any change appear harder than it is. Grounding the first chakra is a way to come out of the fear of change. Imagine a connection between the base of your spine and the center of the planet. Imagine being grounded.
  • Be centered. We can get lost in our thinking that is, for the most part, incorrect. Our thinking tends to focus on worry and problems. Gain perspective by being in the center of your head (sixth chakra not your analyzer). When we are centered in this way, and not lost in thought but centered, we have a clearer perspective from which to see and know our next step. Imagine the life you desire rather focus on the problem at hand.
  • Hold your head high. I know that sounds trite though from an intuitive perspective when we hold our head up, lengthen our spine so that our energy centers (chakras) are aligned then our energy can flow up through an energy center at the top of our head, the crown chakra. This energy center vibrates our confidence, ownership of our space and seniority in our world.

All of these steps are designed to connect to our courage for a change, to come out of the fear of change, to clear our thinking, focus on what we do want and find the confidence to make the changes to get there.

The body hates change, so a change will most always be uncomfortable though it is essential to achieve our vision of the life we desire. So to have the changes we desire means accepting the discomfort (disruption in old energy patterns) during the transition.

We are always getting our goals. We are always evolving and moving toward our grandest vision for ourselves.

Best wishes, Kay