The term “out of your mind” has negative connotations and yet I tell all my clients to do this. Being “in your mind” can lead you astray. When we are in our mind or thoughts we tend not to be aware in present time. Our mind has the ability to create stories around our thoughts. They are just stories but we think and act as if they are reality. This is where we get off track.
Our thoughts are different from our logic. We use our logic to solve a problem, find a solution, understand a new level of information, etc. This is very different from getting lost in thought, over analyzing and creating stories in our mind. Knowing how to get out of our mind is important to having clear perspective, making the right decision, reducing stress and creating our vision of success.
A conversation, a situation, an experience can re-stimulate highly charged memories or emotions. When this happens our mind replays old thoughts. We begin to react. Our reactions come from highly charged energy from the past and we begin to react, get lost in our thoughts, lose perspective, create a whole story around these thoughts, none of which are relevant in present time. This is different from being conscious and aware in the moment and responding accordingly.
The focus of my work is the success of business owners and professionals so I pay attention to thinking. From an intuitive perspective thoughts are creative so our thoughts matter.
Imagine the Possibilities
Carol, owner of laundry business, planned to expand her business to three locations. This is a big step and one she tried before. When she attempted expansion five years ago she ran into so many roadblocks that she abandoned the attempt. Carol had a choice this time around. She could get lost in her thinking about everything that went wrong in her first attempt, create a story of failure in her mind and stop before she started. She took another approach. Carol used logic to create a new plan that addressed what did not work last time. Her vision of this new attempt was clear, her thoughts were about the possibilities and she could clearly see and visualize the success of this expansion.
Thinking of the Roadblocks
Felicia, owner of a beauty salon with six hair dressers, wanted to expand by opening a new salon in a larger community close to many of her current and potential clients. Her current salon was very successful and has been established for more than 10 years. Felicia tends to get lost in her thoughts and fears. She began thinking of the possible obstacles, remembering how hard it was to set up her current salon and anticipating things not going so well, i.e. the bank turning down her loan application.
Clear Your Thinking
It is not hard to tell which of these expansions will be accomplished from these two examples. As it turned out they both succeeded. Carol expanded her business with little effort and a great deal of success. In our business mentoring sessions, Felicia worked to get out of her mind so that she could clear her thinking and create a vision of her new salon using her experience and knowledge. She had to release the energy of the past including her fears and limits and be present.
Kathy, a lawyer, was looking to join a law firm. She described to me the possibilities as well as the obstacles. As she told the story that she had created in her mind, I began to laugh. Her story was filled with limits and roadblocks none of which she had actually experienced but they were what she feared. I asked if she really meant to create the realty she was describing. Kathy stopped and looked surprised by my question. She did not realize she was telling a story based on thoughts in her mind. With this awareness Kathy was able to clear her thinking, get out of her mind and created a new vision of the possibilities.
Be Real in Present Time
Success comes from being conscious and aware of what is real in the moment, clearing our thinking, getting out of our mind, creating a strong and clear vision of success.
Take one day and notice your thinking about everything during that day. Notice the stories you create in your mind. Notice how you react. Be amused by what you notice. Change your thinking to change your reality. Get out of your mind and be grounded in present time.
Best wishes on your success,