Some of our thoughts are about creating experiences and things we want, so we have them. Other times, we want things, but our thoughts tell us why we cannot have them.

I was talking to a client today who asked me why – the famous “Why” question- she cannot get others to help her, whether that is family helping with the care of her aging mother or women volunteering for their non-profit. Why does everything depend on her?

I suggested these things weren’t happening to her. She was quite literally creating the lack of help. She wants help but believes no one will help, so that is exactly what she is creating.

Fred asked why, no matter how much money he makes, he never has enough. I asked why he believed that he would never have enough. He is creating exactly what he believes.

I could give a thousand more examples of how each of us creates what we do not want because of what we believe will happen. The universe is always giving us what we say is true.

To change our reality starts with noticing what we are saying. We literally tell the universe things that we do not want. When we change to focus on, see in our minds, and say what we do want, as if it was already manifesting, it will.

Try it. Notice your thoughts about something you do not have or don’t want to experience. Change that from a “why question to a vision of what you do want, and declare that it is being created now. Believe it.