So answer honestly, do you find that you react or respond in most situations? Perhaps you have not put your attention on the difference. As a leader in your business, profession or life, it makes all the difference.
We all have energy in our space. What I mean by that is literally, we all have energy in our space. This is the “charge” we hold from experiences whether positive or negative. If I have an argument with someone it creates pictures and emotions – a charge in my space. When I carry that energy with me and communicate to others I am most likely to react in a way I may not intend.
My client, Carol, told me the story of having a disagreement with her teenage daughter first thing in the morning. She left the issue unresolved and it bothered her as she drove to work. Her first appointment was with a potential client and she worried about being late. When she got to her office her secretary looked at her then seemed angry. Carol thought that was odd because her secretary was level-headed and Carol was actually on-time – barely. That surprisingly irritated her. Carol stopped before stepping into the meeting, took a deep breath to make sure she was putting on a good front with smiles and enthusiasm. The meeting started awkwardly and soon Carol sensed she was not connecting with this potential client. There seemed to be tension between them so she stopped. Carol acknowledged the tension and apologized for being distracted by an earlier argument with her daughter. The client laughed and said, “So that is why I am angry at you and I don’t even know you yet!”. Her new client intuitively picked up on the anger in Carol’s space and felt angry as well. Hmmm. Once the air was clear they started over at the energy level they both wanted in their communication. He became her client but that is not always the case.
As an intuitive business coach, I asked Carol what happened that made her angry even before her argument with her daughter. She dug deeper though for another layer to the story.
Reacting vs. Responding
This happens all the time. We carry energy in our space and it impacts our conversations, relationship, decision-making, health, state of mind, etc. When we react we are communicating through the energy in our space, the thoughts on our mind, the emotions that are stimulated, etc. That is why I suggest we take the time to stop, clear our space, release and let go of whatever is on our mind or in our space so that we are responding from a space of clarity to reality in present time. What is happening now and not how do I perceive what is happening now through the filter of the energy in my space?
Responding is important for leadership. Being clear, without energy and baggage of other experiences clouding our thinking, makes us a better leader in our work and in our life. So take the time to clear your mind and let go of energy you are holding in your space then step into your life and your work in present time.
Best wishes on your success, Kay
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