Creating the life that we desire takes courage. Working with people every day shows me a great deal about how we create. Everyone has a vision of the life they desire and goals to get there. Most take small steps and never fully achieve their dream. Why is that?
We decide it is too hard, change is too uncomfortable, we are afraid or don’t like taking risks. In a nutshell, we don’t take big enough steps to create our vision. We prefer the comfort of what is familiar even if it is not where we want to be.
My job as a coach is to push you to go where you say you want to go. Lindsay owns a business. She works hard but wants more. Lindsay wants her business to run without her so that she can have a life as well. The solution involves a handful of key changes, and she would be well on her way to having a business running reliably just the way she wants without her being there all the time.
The vision Lindsay has for herself, and her business will stay a vision because she does not like working on business development areas that are new to her, to think in new ways and to be uncertain. All this makes her uncomfortable, so she says, “I am not ready for this today.”
Carol is a career professional and successful at a job she does not like. More importantly, she wants time to create a relationship so that her life is whole from her perspective. Having a job that pays her well is more comfortable than the effort of looking for a new position that pays well and that she enjoys. Carol also finds it hard to get out of her routine and spend time meeting people. Until she is ready to take steps that are uncomfortable, her vision stays something she desires.
We are creatures of routine even if those routines do not serve our vision of the life we desire. It takes determination, the courage to change and the will to take action to move from where we are now to have what we say we want.
Take a deep breath. Write down what you want in your life. Then write the steps you can take that will make a difference. Do not write down the easy steps because you are going to do those anyway. The difficult steps are the ones we need to take to make a difference in our lives. Have courage.