Life happens and we act and react to what comes our way. That is an atheist view. What if every thing that happens manifests through our own thinking about things? This is truer but hard to grasp because it is not logical though it is very intuitive. The proof falls in line when we see ourselves. Let me share a story of one of my clients who learned that her thinking about things matters.
Susan – The Failed Leader
Susan is a new director of a large research laboratory. Under her is an array of doctors each a specialist in their field. Susie called me because she was trying to bring her team of doctors together for monthly department meeting. To date some doctors never came, others came and controlled the meeting with their own banter, etc. She was frustrated, felt disrespected and that her leadership was not recognized in the way that she wanted. When I met with her I could see clearly how she was creating this scenario through her own thinking.
No One To Blame
Typically we look outside ourselves for why something is not going well. In this case, Susan believed the doctors were being arrogant, had their egos in the way, etc. This was what she believed and saw the problem was with them. From an intuitive perspective I had her not focus outside herself but to be aware that she was creating this reality. I saw her thinking was in her way. Susan could not imagine bringing the doctors together under her leadership and to work collaboratively. She feared their egos were stronger than hers that they would run her over and disregard her role so that is exactly what she created and experienced. At first Susan argued that she was not creating this because it was not what she wanted.
Change Others or Go Within
Susan came up with many suggestions on how to make the doctors come to the meetings, follow her agenda, etc. These were possible solutions though intuitively I knew they would not work until she changed her thoughts and pictures about her relationship to her staff. Susan agreed to a guided meditation in which she could become aware of her thinking and vision of the lab.
A New Vision
In meditation Susan began to imagine the research lab operating in a successful, supportive and collaborative way. When she became aware of her thoughts about this person or another being in the way she cleared those thoughts and created a new perspective. Susan meditated on the monthly staff meeting imagining it in a new way. She began to see her team of doctors coming together, seeing value in collaboration, sharing expertise and generally enjoying the time together. As she meditated on this she became aware of how much energy she had in resistance to the monthly meeting herself and released that energy from her space. She was also aware of her fear that the doctors did not value her leadership and cleared those fears. We continued in this fashion until she could see clearly all the doctors being in communication and support of the success of the lab.
Everyone Is Intuitive
A couple of intuitive points helped Susan understand how she was affecting her ability to be a leader. Everyone is intuitive and the doctors simply picked up on Susan’s energy (fear and uncertainty) and reacted in kind. They intuitive read her pictures especially the one about doctors not wanting to follow her leadership and so they did not. From an intuitive perspective be aware that people pick up on the energy and pictures in our space and react more to that than what we say.
A New Reality
Once Susan cleared her thinking and released the energies in her space, I had her begin to see herself as a leader with a clear working relationship with all of her team, leading, setting the tone, being in communication and having fun.
In this meditation Susan changed her perspective and energy about the lab, her staff and specifically the monthly staff meeting. Not surprising Susan reported that everything changed immediately. She found herself approaching her communication with everyone in a new way resulting in a new response from each person. They seemed to sense her clarity and certainty. All the doctors attended the next monthly staff meeting, and she led them in a lively and productive case discussion. It was clear to Susan the change was within her. The staff sensed her clarity as a leader and the change in her perspective.
Clear Your Thinking
What surprised Susan was she did not have to make her staff change though that seemed to happen. Susan understood that she was in her own way. Her thoughts about her staff, her fears about her own abilities and how she saw herself as the leader were manifesting in her reality. That has changed. Susan committed to regularly assessing the thoughts and concepts she has in her space and on her mind and to meditate to find this clarity.
From an intuitive perspective we create our reality through our thoughts, fears and concepts. Change your thinking and watch your reality change. If there is a situation in your life or your work that is not as you would like it to be then stop to see what your thoughts are about it. It is never the other person or the situation. It is always manifesting from within us so meditate because the answer may not always be logical.
Best wishes on your success, Kay